#2. A Ship That Never Sinks

What do you think about the picture above? Two girls are gossiping something? xD~ Well, It could be. Or maybe they are talking about a hot guy sitting across them? This is more make sense. Haha xp

On the second day of #30HariMenulis, i want to talk about "Friendship". Yes, the common word exists around us. I bet you guys has at least, someone, called, f-r-i-e-n-d. Are you a geek or nerd that you don't have any friend? Sorry, but as social human being we need to actualize ourselves in the social life. It is human need as Abraham Maslow explained in hierarchy of needs. There are five needs: physiological, safety, love and belonging, esteem and self actualization. Friendship is included in the part of love and belonging.

I have many friends. According to Facebook, i have 1416 friends. Wow, i can make a big neighborhood with that number. Unfortunately, some of them are just Facebook Friends. We meet in cyber world and become friends there. Some are friends from primary school until the university. Nevertheless, Facebook doesn't have categorization of real friends. Yes, someone who will help to wipe tears when the jerk boyfriend dump you by cheating to someone else. A person who will lend you money in the middle of economic crisis as student.  "Friend in need is a friend indeed." I think that is the meaning of real friends. 

My good friend in primary school was Selly Danka. She was the one who usually called me in the middle of night, asked about homework. I went to her house, once, uhm no...twice. She cooked me instant noodle and we talked in the kitchen. Entering the junior high school, we enrolled to different school. But we found a way to keep communicate to each other, writing a letter. Yes, we like to send letters telling about our life. About school, the handsome first love, new friends and many more. I still remember one of her letters is colored in white with the Titanic stars on cover, Rose and Jack . In that letter she wrote that she was glad to have me as a best friend. She could share her stories, happiness and sadness. Another letter she wrote that she has many problems with the new boyfriend. I don't know how many letters she wrote to me. Someday, i realized the letter hasn't come anymore. She hasn't sent any letter, not even one. I asked my neighbor who usually drop the letter from Selly to me. Oh ya, the carrier of our letters is not a post man but my neighbor, Wennda. She goes to the same school with Selly. But she said, she doesn't know where she is. I haven't met Selly since then, not through her letter or face to face. She was disappeared without saying good bye. I always wonder where she is now.

Robintang and Ias Ariani were my best friends in junior high school. Though i met some more, Maria and other girls gank. Junior high school was one of the brightest moments in my life. Senior high school went so-so, ordinary life of high school. But yeah i had good and bad moments as well. I met a boy-best-friend also in the last year as high school student. In university i had good roommates, two from Malaysia and three from Indonesia. I also have other close friends, typical, girls gank, when i spent 4 months as student in Universitas Negeri Jakarta and including the girls gank in my university. However, life goes on and we can't always stay in the same place. Robintang moved to continue high school in Manado and I continued study to Malaysia. Some other friends stay in capital city, Jakarta. Moreover, i met good friends from different part of the world during my internship last year. Yet, we are separated to each other.

Although i study in Malaysia, i rarely go back to Indonesia. Once i went back home, i found many changes. In this context, i feel different with the behaviors of my good friends. A friend of mine, she is the one who usually listen to my stories. And, she is just different..she is not a person that i knew five years ago. I asked and reminded her with her good-listener-past behaviors. She admitted that she changed and though i wanted her like before, i couldn't. She has changed already. Currently, i have the same situation when (again) your good friend changes 180 degrees. If you know someone very well, you expect him or her to respond as you know them. Even, I can predict what she says when she find a shirt with her favorite color at the mall. That moment when she act differently, i realize she is not the same person anymore. Well, i can't blame someone to change their behaviors. It depends on them what they want to be and why they want to change. We do change as time flies. I do change as well since i live far away from home. "You are different," said one of my friend. Yes, we have to change to be a better person, right? 

Referring back to the picture above, i admit that we can't run away from separation. It is inevitable to get move on and find new life with new friends. No matter how far the distance is, we would still be friends. To be honest, i am sad to know the change of my friend after some time separated. Even though she changes, hope there is always one thing remain, our friendship. The people change but the friendship not. I accept her changes and try to understand the situation. I don't run away from her, i just stand still. I wait for the right time to help her. Cuz again, friendship is not about forcing someone to be what you want but to lend a hand together. This is my perception towards the words "nothing changes" written on the picture. Changes is the only constant in life. We can't deny and we have to adapt to it. Just maybe we need to consider and adjust certain things. So, if you have the same situation, when your friend changes and you feel weird about it, take your time. Firstly, you must be surprise but later you will realize the maturity process that your friend is facing right now.  Anyway, if you are able to answer the question below, you surely understand what this post is about:

"What kind of ship that never sink?"

PS:  This is not exam question, you can do open book or take it home xp 

Happy Friendship Day,

Chandini